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1. 07:12 AM - CJ Delivery (Ernest Martinez)
2. 02:20 PM - Selfishness (Keith Harbour)
3. 02:43 PM - Re: Selfishness (Frank Stelwagon)
4. 03:40 PM - Disregard "selfishness" email (Keith Harbour)
5. 08:24 PM - Re: Selfishness (Roger Kemp M.D.)
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I'm looking for someone who can deliver a CJ from central Florida to
Austin TX, in the next coupe of weeks. Contact me off list.
Thanks
Ernie
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The role selfishness plays in any relationship
It is extremely difficult these days to find a healthy relationship and
to have it last. The number of break ups in relationships and marriages
is ever increasing and a major underlying cause is selfishness. The role
selfishness plays in any relationship is pain and heartache which (if
not realized or fixed) will lead to a nasty break up. Many people in
relationships do not realize until after the break up, that the root of
their problems stemmed from selfishness; whether it was on account of
one or both parties. So the key to understanding and having a healthy
successful relationship is being able to realize the selfish behavior,
stop it, and mend what needs to be fixed.
Selfish Behavior
The dictionary defines selfishness as different things:
1. concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself; pleasure or
well-being without a regard for others
2. arising from concern with one's welfare or advantage in disregard of
others
In all cases, the one thing that runs true is being concerned with ones
self or replication. There is nothing in the word selfishness that says
anything about working together, sharing, or being concerned with
another person. Selfishness can manifest itself many different ways in a
relationship. It can be something as simple as forgetting to call if
you're coming home later than usual, to not inviting your significant
other to a gathering, to having an affair with another person.
If you are working at a relationship daily then your first and foremost
concern should be with the other person. Consider their feelings, or
what kind of food they like. Since we as human beings are naturally
selfish it will take some work to get past that. Here are some ways to
strengthen your relationships and learn to be a little less selfish.
Learn to Communicate
Communication seems to be one of the most important things in a
relationship, and also is usually the reason why there are so many break
ups. Good communication skills are vital to every relationship. When two
people learn to communicate effectively together there is less chance
for selfishness to manifest itself without the other knowing.
Trust is essential
Selfishness usually begins to show itself most in a relationship when
there is no trust. When people don't trust one another they begin to
only look out for themselves. They do things without thinking about the
other person, and before you know it end up living separate lives which
is damaging to any relationship. After all the point of being in a
relationship is so you can share things and work together.
Nice words
Everyone needs to here those three words "I love you." There is
something to being loved and loving in return that keeps our spirits
soft and humble. We all need to feel loved and cared for. When you tell
someone that you love them there is no room for selfishness to manifest
itself in the relationship. If you love someone, you want to do things
for them and make them happy. If someone else's happiness comes before
ours, we want to do selfless things; not selfish ones.
The only reason selfishness should play a role in any relationship is if
there is any sort of abuse. Then you must thing of yourself first and
keep you and your family safe. That being said, selfishness should not
exist in a loving relationship. Creating a healthy and loving
relationship is hard work, but if you leave selfishness where it
belongs, it possible to achieve true happiness.
Message 3
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What has this got to do with the YAK LIST??
----- Original Message -----
From: Keith Harbour
To: Yak List
Sent: Thursday, May 29, 2008 2:17 PM
Subject: Yak-List: Selfishness
The role selfishness plays in any relationship
It is extremely difficult these days to find a healthy relationship
and to have it last. The number of break ups in relationships and
marriages is ever increasing and a major underlying cause is
selfishness. The role selfishness plays in any relationship is pain and
heartache which (if not realized or fixed) will lead to a nasty break
up. Many people in relationships do not realize until after the break
up, that the root of their problems stemmed from selfishness; whether it
was on account of one or both parties. So the key to understanding and
having a healthy successful relationship is being able to realize the
selfish behavior, stop it, and mend what needs to be fixed.
Selfish Behavior
The dictionary defines selfishness as different things:
1. concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself; pleasure or
well-being without a regard for others
2. arising from concern with one's welfare or advantage in disregard
of others
In all cases, the one thing that runs true is being concerned with
ones self or replication. There is nothing in the word selfishness that
says anything about working together, sharing, or being concerned with
another person. Selfishness can manifest itself many different ways in a
relationship. It can be something as simple as forgetting to call if
you're coming home later than usual, to not inviting your significant
other to a gathering, to having an affair with another person.
If you are working at a relationship daily then your first and
foremost concern should be with the other person. Consider their
feelings, or what kind of food they like. Since we as human beings are
naturally selfish it will take some work to get past that. Here are some
ways to strengthen your relationships and learn to be a little less
selfish.
Learn to Communicate
Communication seems to be one of the most important things in a
relationship, and also is usually the reason why there are so many break
ups. Good communication skills are vital to every relationship. When two
people learn to communicate effectively together there is less chance
for selfishness to manifest itself without the other knowing.
Trust is essential
Selfishness usually begins to show itself most in a relationship when
there is no trust. When people don't trust one another they begin to
only look out for themselves. They do things without thinking about the
other person, and before you know it end up living separate lives which
is damaging to any relationship. After all the point of being in a
relationship is so you can share things and work together.
Nice words
Everyone needs to here those three words "I love you." There is
something to being loved and loving in return that keeps our spirits
soft and humble. We all need to feel loved and cared for. When you tell
someone that you love them there is no room for selfishness to manifest
itself in the relationship. If you love someone, you want to do things
for them and make them happy. If someone else's happiness comes before
ours, we want to do selfless things; not selfish ones.
The only reason selfishness should play a role in any relationship is
if there is any sort of abuse. Then you must thing of yourself first and
keep you and your family safe. That being said, selfishness should not
exist in a loving relationship. Creating a healthy and loving
relationship is hard work, but if you leave selfishness where it
belongs, it possible to achieve true happiness.
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Disregard "selfishness" email.
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Not a thing but it has a hell of a lot to do how we live our lives and
manage our relationships.
Who knows, applying these lessons to our relationship may get us a few more
kitchen passes to spend more time with our steel mistresses.
Doc
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[mailto:owner-yak-list-server@matronics.com] On Behalf Of Frank Stelwagon
Sent: Thursday, May 29, 2008 4:40 PM
Subject: Re: Yak-List: Selfishness
What has this got to do with the YAK LIST??
----- Original Message -----
From: Keith Harbour <mailto:yaklist@citlink.net>
Sent: Thursday, May 29, 2008 2:17 PM
Subject: Yak-List: Selfishness
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It is extremely difficult these days to find a healthy relationship and to
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increasing and a major underlying cause is selfishness. The role selfishness
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relationship is pain and heartache which (if not realized or fixed) will
lead to a nasty break up. Many people in relationships do not realize until
after the break up, that the root of their problems stemmed from
selfishness; whether it was on account of one or both parties. So the key to
understanding and having a healthy successful relationship is being able to
realize the selfish behavior, stop it, and mend what needs to be fixed.
Selfish Behavior
The dictionary defines selfishness as different things:
1. concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself; pleasure or well-being
without a regard for others
2. arising from concern with one's welfare or advantage in disregard of
others
In all cases, the one thing that runs true is being concerned with ones self
or replication. There is nothing in the word selfishness that says anything
about working together, sharing, or being concerned with another person.
Selfishness can manifest itself many different ways in a relationship. It
can be something as simple as forgetting to call if you're coming home later
than usual, to not inviting your significant other to a gathering, to having
an affair with another person.
If you are working at a relationship daily then your first and foremost
concern should be with the other person. Consider their feelings, or what
kind of food they like. Since we as human beings are naturally selfish it
will take some work to get past that. Here are some ways to strengthen
<http://www.improvingyourworld.com/relationships/the_role_selfishness_plays_
in_any_relationship_002380.html> your relationships and learn to be a little
less selfish.
Learn to Communicate
Communication seems to be one of the most important things in a
relationship, and also is usually the reason why there are so many break
ups. Good communication skills are vital to every relationship. When two
people learn to communicate effectively together there is less chance for
selfishness to manifest itself without the other knowing.
Trust is essential
Selfishness usually begins to show itself most in a relationship when there
is no trust. When people don't trust one another they begin to only look out
for themselves. They do things without thinking about the other person, and
before you know it end up living separate lives which is damaging to any
relationship. After all the point of being in a relationship is so you can
share things and work together.
Nice words
Everyone needs to here those three words "
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loved and loving in return that keeps our spirits soft and humble. We all
need to feel loved and cared for. When you tell someone that you
<http://www.improvingyourworld.com/relationships/the_role_selfishness_plays_
in_any_relationship_002380.html> love them there is no room for selfishness
to manifest itself in the relationship. If you love someone, you want to do
things for them and make them happy. If someone else's happiness comes
before ours, we want to do selfless things; not selfish ones.
The only reason selfishness should play a role in any relationship is if
there is any sort of abuse. Then you must thing of yourself first and keep
you and
<http://www.improvingyourworld.com/relationships/the_role_selfishness_plays_
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selfishness should not exist in a loving relationship. Creating a healthy
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you leave selfishness where it belongs, it possible to achieve true
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