---------------------------------------------------------- Yak-List Digest Archive --- Total Messages Posted Thu 05/29/08: 5 ---------------------------------------------------------- Today's Message Index: ---------------------- 1. 07:12 AM - CJ Delivery (Ernest Martinez) 2. 02:20 PM - Selfishness (Keith Harbour) 3. 02:43 PM - Re: Selfishness (Frank Stelwagon) 4. 03:40 PM - Disregard "selfishness" email (Keith Harbour) 5. 08:24 PM - Re: Selfishness (Roger Kemp M.D.) ________________________________ Message 1 _____________________________________ Time: 07:12:01 AM PST US From: "Ernest Martinez" Subject: Yak-List: CJ Delivery I'm looking for someone who can deliver a CJ from central Florida to Austin TX, in the next coupe of weeks. Contact me off list. Thanks Ernie ________________________________ Message 2 _____________________________________ Time: 02:20:41 PM PST US From: "Keith Harbour" Subject: Yak-List: Selfishness The role selfishness plays in any relationship It is extremely difficult these days to find a healthy relationship and to have it last. The number of break ups in relationships and marriages is ever increasing and a major underlying cause is selfishness. The role selfishness plays in any relationship is pain and heartache which (if not realized or fixed) will lead to a nasty break up. Many people in relationships do not realize until after the break up, that the root of their problems stemmed from selfishness; whether it was on account of one or both parties. So the key to understanding and having a healthy successful relationship is being able to realize the selfish behavior, stop it, and mend what needs to be fixed. Selfish Behavior The dictionary defines selfishness as different things: 1. concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself; pleasure or well-being without a regard for others 2. arising from concern with one's welfare or advantage in disregard of others In all cases, the one thing that runs true is being concerned with ones self or replication. There is nothing in the word selfishness that says anything about working together, sharing, or being concerned with another person. Selfishness can manifest itself many different ways in a relationship. It can be something as simple as forgetting to call if you're coming home later than usual, to not inviting your significant other to a gathering, to having an affair with another person. If you are working at a relationship daily then your first and foremost concern should be with the other person. Consider their feelings, or what kind of food they like. Since we as human beings are naturally selfish it will take some work to get past that. Here are some ways to strengthen your relationships and learn to be a little less selfish. Learn to Communicate Communication seems to be one of the most important things in a relationship, and also is usually the reason why there are so many break ups. Good communication skills are vital to every relationship. When two people learn to communicate effectively together there is less chance for selfishness to manifest itself without the other knowing. Trust is essential Selfishness usually begins to show itself most in a relationship when there is no trust. When people don't trust one another they begin to only look out for themselves. They do things without thinking about the other person, and before you know it end up living separate lives which is damaging to any relationship. After all the point of being in a relationship is so you can share things and work together. Nice words Everyone needs to here those three words "I love you." There is something to being loved and loving in return that keeps our spirits soft and humble. We all need to feel loved and cared for. When you tell someone that you love them there is no room for selfishness to manifest itself in the relationship. If you love someone, you want to do things for them and make them happy. If someone else's happiness comes before ours, we want to do selfless things; not selfish ones. The only reason selfishness should play a role in any relationship is if there is any sort of abuse. Then you must thing of yourself first and keep you and your family safe. That being said, selfishness should not exist in a loving relationship. Creating a healthy and loving relationship is hard work, but if you leave selfishness where it belongs, it possible to achieve true happiness. ________________________________ Message 3 _____________________________________ Time: 02:43:02 PM PST US From: "Frank Stelwagon" Subject: Re: Yak-List: Selfishness What has this got to do with the YAK LIST?? ----- Original Message ----- From: Keith Harbour To: Yak List Sent: Thursday, May 29, 2008 2:17 PM Subject: Yak-List: Selfishness The role selfishness plays in any relationship It is extremely difficult these days to find a healthy relationship and to have it last. The number of break ups in relationships and marriages is ever increasing and a major underlying cause is selfishness. The role selfishness plays in any relationship is pain and heartache which (if not realized or fixed) will lead to a nasty break up. Many people in relationships do not realize until after the break up, that the root of their problems stemmed from selfishness; whether it was on account of one or both parties. So the key to understanding and having a healthy successful relationship is being able to realize the selfish behavior, stop it, and mend what needs to be fixed. Selfish Behavior The dictionary defines selfishness as different things: 1. concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself; pleasure or well-being without a regard for others 2. arising from concern with one's welfare or advantage in disregard of others In all cases, the one thing that runs true is being concerned with ones self or replication. There is nothing in the word selfishness that says anything about working together, sharing, or being concerned with another person. Selfishness can manifest itself many different ways in a relationship. It can be something as simple as forgetting to call if you're coming home later than usual, to not inviting your significant other to a gathering, to having an affair with another person. If you are working at a relationship daily then your first and foremost concern should be with the other person. Consider their feelings, or what kind of food they like. Since we as human beings are naturally selfish it will take some work to get past that. Here are some ways to strengthen your relationships and learn to be a little less selfish. Learn to Communicate Communication seems to be one of the most important things in a relationship, and also is usually the reason why there are so many break ups. Good communication skills are vital to every relationship. When two people learn to communicate effectively together there is less chance for selfishness to manifest itself without the other knowing. Trust is essential Selfishness usually begins to show itself most in a relationship when there is no trust. When people don't trust one another they begin to only look out for themselves. They do things without thinking about the other person, and before you know it end up living separate lives which is damaging to any relationship. After all the point of being in a relationship is so you can share things and work together. Nice words Everyone needs to here those three words "I love you." There is something to being loved and loving in return that keeps our spirits soft and humble. We all need to feel loved and cared for. When you tell someone that you love them there is no room for selfishness to manifest itself in the relationship. If you love someone, you want to do things for them and make them happy. If someone else's happiness comes before ours, we want to do selfless things; not selfish ones. The only reason selfishness should play a role in any relationship is if there is any sort of abuse. Then you must thing of yourself first and keep you and your family safe. That being said, selfishness should not exist in a loving relationship. Creating a healthy and loving relationship is hard work, but if you leave selfishness where it belongs, it possible to achieve true happiness. ________________________________ Message 4 _____________________________________ Time: 03:40:09 PM PST US From: "Keith Harbour" Subject: Yak-List: Disregard "selfishness" email Disregard "selfishness" email. ________________________________ Message 5 _____________________________________ Time: 08:24:24 PM PST US From: "Roger Kemp M.D." Subject: RE: Yak-List: Selfishness Not a thing but it has a hell of a lot to do how we live our lives and manage our relationships. Who knows, applying these lessons to our relationship may get us a few more kitchen passes to spend more time with our steel mistresses. Doc From: owner-yak-list-server@matronics.com [mailto:owner-yak-list-server@matronics.com] On Behalf Of Frank Stelwagon Sent: Thursday, May 29, 2008 4:40 PM Subject: Re: Yak-List: Selfishness What has this got to do with the YAK LIST?? ----- Original Message ----- From: Keith Harbour Sent: Thursday, May 29, 2008 2:17 PM Subject: Yak-List: Selfishness The role selfishness plays in any relationship It is extremely difficult these days to find a healthy relationship and to have it last. The number of break ups in relationships and marriages is ever increasing and a major underlying cause is selfishness. The role selfishness plays in any relationship is pain and heartache which (if not realized or fixed) will lead to a nasty break up. Many people in relationships do not realize until after the break up, that the root of their problems stemmed from selfishness; whether it was on account of one or both parties. So the key to understanding and having a healthy successful relationship is being able to realize the selfish behavior, stop it, and mend what needs to be fixed. Selfish Behavior The dictionary defines selfishness as different things: 1. concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself; pleasure or well-being without a regard for others 2. arising from concern with one's welfare or advantage in disregard of others In all cases, the one thing that runs true is being concerned with ones self or replication. There is nothing in the word selfishness that says anything about working together, sharing, or being concerned with another person. Selfishness can manifest itself many different ways in a relationship. It can be something as simple as forgetting to call if you're coming home later than usual, to not inviting your significant other to a gathering, to having an affair with another person. If you are working at a relationship daily then your first and foremost concern should be with the other person. Consider their feelings, or what kind of food they like. Since we as human beings are naturally selfish it will take some work to get past that. Here are some ways to strengthen your relationships and learn to be a little less selfish. Learn to Communicate Communication seems to be one of the most important things in a relationship, and also is usually the reason why there are so many break ups. Good communication skills are vital to every relationship. When two people learn to communicate effectively together there is less chance for selfishness to manifest itself without the other knowing. Trust is essential Selfishness usually begins to show itself most in a relationship when there is no trust. When people don't trust one another they begin to only look out for themselves. They do things without thinking about the other person, and before you know it end up living separate lives which is damaging to any relationship. After all the point of being in a relationship is so you can share things and work together. Nice words Everyone needs to here those three words " I love you." There is something to being loved and loving in return that keeps our spirits soft and humble. We all need to feel loved and cared for. When you tell someone that you love them there is no room for selfishness to manifest itself in the relationship. If you love someone, you want to do things for them and make them happy. If someone else's happiness comes before ours, we want to do selfless things; not selfish ones. The only reason selfishness should play a role in any relationship is if there is any sort of abuse. Then you must thing of yourself first and keep you and your family safe. That being said, selfishness should not exist in a loving relationship. 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